I am a big fan of reading blogs from other crossdressers. Here’s why. Like people in general, there are no two crossdressers who are alike. There are no two crossdressing blogs that are alike either. Continue reading to find out about one of my favorites: Kandi’s Land.
Update: This article was changed because Kandi has a new site for her blog: https://www.kandis-land.com/.
Why Read Blogs About Crossdressing Experiences?
I love to read about other crossdresser’s journeys. One reason is that I want to compare how far they have grown and progressed in comparison to myself. It also helps me to know I am not alone. Finally, I am always on the lookout for tips that are going to help me on my personal journey.
If you have some of the same reasons for checking out what other crossdressers have to say about themselves, try reading some other blogs. When you find one that is helpful for your situation, subscribe to it so that you don’t miss an article.
Kandi’s Land – A Blog All About the Experience
Kandi’s blog is one of the most inspirational sources of information I read, whether from crossdressers or not. It’s that good.
After reading a few of Kandi’s posts, you’ll quickly determine that she is one of those people who not only feels comfortable in her own skin, but also wants to help others become more comfortable in theirs. Her story was not always this way. Like most of us crossdressers, Kandi had a lot of inner turmoil over this need to crossdress.
Kandi was eventually able to turn that corner and accept herself for who she is. This led to confidence, enough confidence to be able to present herself among many people. These include her church, volunteer activities, dining, and shopping. In other words, she has become comfortable doing a lot of things that for many of us are frightening and nearly impossible to do.
Now you may have no desire to crossdress outside the comfort of your own home. That’s perfectly okay. The key takeaway from Kandi’s Land isn’t necessarily the ability to go out in public. Rather, it is becoming accepting of oneself, regardless of how that acceptance manifests itself. If your goal is only to crossdress within the confines of your home, isn’t it better to do so while feeling confident and good about it, rather than loathing about it?
This Kandi’s Land post answers a question posed to Kandi: “What is it specifically that gives you so much joy presenting as a woman in public?”
I really like this blog post because many crossdressers, including myself, think a lot about everything that can go wrong by crossdressing in public. Kandi lets us know about the many, many things that can go right! I find it to be very motivational, encouraging, and uplifting.
Being a man. Being a woman. Loving the woman I am. Joy.
Purses. Shoes. Necklaces. A dangling bracelet. Earrings. The perfect lipstick color. Joy.
Read Kandi’s entire Joy post here. It sure put a big smile on my face. I am sure it will do the same for you.
We Make Our Own Reality
For those of you who have not yet ventured into a public space, the biggest hurdle is getting over your initial fear. I talk about overcoming this with the Power of One, which I believe is one of the most useful pieces of information on The Crossdresser Report.
Kandi’s article, We Make Our Own Reality, looks at the same topic but from a different angle. Here are a couple of helpful quotes:
I peruse many of the CD web sites, always looking to learn, feel connected. A common theme I run across is the wish that society were more accepting or “gee, I wish it were possible for me to go out”. The absolute truth of the matter is that we are our own worst enemy.
If you simply are not comfortable, then you should not go out. But don’t blame the world, it’s all in your head. People, not institutions, not organizations, not political parties, not religions, people, are very good, very accepting.
Once out in the open, one of the most difficult questions to answer is about what to do when one needs to use the restroom. Kandi’s Land has an excellent article with lots of sound advice based on personal experience. Here is one of the eleven different tips she offers:
When I am in a public restroom and young children enter, I stay put. If I happen to be in a stall, I stay until they children leave. If I see them entering before me, I wait. If they enter while I am washing up, I quickly finish and leave. It’s all about being smart here as well. Nothing good can happen in this situation with children involved, it will only be nothing or something negative.
Read more about Kandi’s perspective on Bathrooms.
Subscribing to the Kandi’s Land Crossdressing Blog
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p.s., Here are some of my other popular articles for crossdressers. Enjoy!
- Crossdresser Resources: Crossdresser.com
- How to Wear a Corset for Crossdressing – The Crossdresser Report
- Finding Crossdresser Shoes: Your Guide to the Perfect Fit
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