I admit it. Not only am I an introvert, I also fear how people react to me. Both of these attributes have been my lifelong personality traits. Being a crossdresser with these traits is difficult, but I have a story about how I am progressing forward despite them.
The Power of One!
I don’t remember where I read it now, but when I did, it was one of those “Aha!” moments that changed my life. Not only did it help me with my crossdressing, it also helped all aspects of my life. It helped me turn my fear into something that helps me daily. How can this be?
It’s something I’m calling the Power of One. The concept is really quite simple. It’s easy doing things we don’t fear doing. It’s hard to do something we fear. What we want to do it make what is now hard into something easier. We need to make it become something we don’t fear doing.
Most of what we fear stems from the unknown, not knowing what is going to happen if we do it. By doing what we fear, we discover that either nothing bad actually happened or that the result is something we can handle. So by doing what we fear, we eventually overcome the fear.
So here is the Power of One: Decide on one thing you fear that you want to do today, and do it by the end of the day. If you can do this consistently for 30 days, it will transform your perception of fear.
The Power of One for Sami
I first tried the Power of One in the Spring of 2015. I did not feel comfortable exposing any of my feminine traits in public, but I decided that was only my fear talking. After reading about the Power of One, I gave it a try. Each day I thought of one thing that I wanted to do but feared, and then I did it.
One weekend, for my one thing, I decided to paint my nails a peach color and then spend the day going shopping in a couple of places. First I went to the grocery store. Later I went to the hardware store. The cashier at the hardware store thought it looked nice enough that she asked me the color. Although I was nervous throughout the entire day, it was a relief that nothing went bad.
One of my most exciting instances of using the Power of One was later that summer. I was on a fitness streak, where I walked at least 10,000 steps a day. One evening I decided to wear my black heeled sandals to do this. I walked out my house, up the street, and on my 30-minute walk. It wasn’t quite dark yet, so other walkers and drivers could see me and my shoes. I was so exhilarated that I took a picture while sitting on the curb.
Other ideas I tried were wearing obviously feminine rings and a variety of bracelets. I loved wearing bangles. I started with only one and eventually worked my way up to 4 or 5 at a time.
The Power of One for You!
By practicing only one thing that scared me witless per day, I eventually got used to whatever it was that I feared.
Think about one thing you would like to do that you fear to do. Resolve to do it by the end of the day. Do it! Then see how you feel after doing it.
I’d like to know what you’ve done as a result of the Power of One. When you finish, come back here and leave a comment. Who knows? Perhaps your story will help to inspire someone else.
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