Remember January 1st of this year? Do you remember your hopes and dreams for the new year? If you were like me, you may have thought about some of the crossdressing goals you would like to do for the year. I feel I have made some progress, and I’d like to share with you in the hope that it inspires you to take a fresh look at your own goals for crossdressing.
Chipping Away at Fear
In case you may have missed earlier posts, overcoming all sorts of fear is one of my main motivations for crossdressing. As I become more confident with my crossdressing, I also become less fearful in other areas of my life. After all, it takes staring at the fear in front of you to get the courage to go someplace outside the safety of home. Chipping away at these fears are one of my crossdressing goals.
That’s why I am a big advocate of The Power of One. That is the philosophy that a person can chip away at what they fear by doing something, anything, once a day. Over time, what was once feared becomes routine. The fear may still be there, but it has lost its control over you.
About six weeks ago, I decided to face my fear of going out in my small town. I decided to go through a drive through once a week. I wrote about the first week back then. Since then, I’ve continued my commitment to do it every week. There are still some weeks that bailing out still comes to mind, front and center. Despite that fear, I do it anyway.
It still doesn’t seem routine to me yet, but I can tell you for sure that my confidence has grown a lot. For one, I am not scanning the parking lot as I enter it each week. My palms aren’t getting sweaty. So what I have discovered about myself is that the fear hasn’t gone away, but it is taking much less effort each week to take that one step out the door. Once I head out the door, everything is going great. I think that’s a huge accomplishment for me.
One thing I hadn’t planned in my crossdressing goals for this year was to spend a good amount of money to upgrade Sami’s appearance. Yes, that means some vastly improved boobs and a terrific wig. I plan to write more about these in a different post, but I’ll give you the links now so that you can take a look at what I bought.
After looking at several postings in the Crossdressers.com forum, I decided to try The Breast Form Store. I first used their Online Breast Form Fitter tool. Afterward, I selected the Gold Seal Classic 2 in size 8. There are two major improvements with these breast forms over my earlier ones. First, the forms are more triangular in shape than teardrop shaped. This makes the form extend into the underarm area a bit, which fills my bra more naturally. Second, the back side of these forms has room for my natural B cup breasts. This allows the forms to stay in place better, and not wanting to slide to one side or the other.
My other major upgrade was a wig from Godiva’s Secret. I really never dreamed I would spend this much on a wig, but I am really glad I did.
One of the problems I faced with all of my other wigs is that my head is just too big to fit comfortably in them. My favorite wig always left me feeling my head had been in a vise for hours. So I wanted to find something with a larger cap.
Sami’s New Wig
I found a cheaper large-cap wig on eBay so that I could try it on for size. What a huge difference the larger size made! Although I was enjoying the size of the wig, I had my eye on the choices offered by Godiva’s Secret. I just couldn’t justify the price, so I decided to wait until after we move this summer.
Godiva’s Secret foiled that plan, however, when I received an email about two weeks before Mother’s Day. Godiva’s Secret was offering 30% off wigs. The prospect of saving well over $100 was the excuse I needed, so I ordered the Large Harper wig in the Marble Brown color.
Besides the larger size, what amazes me the most about this wig is that it has a lace front and monofilament top. Both of these parts of the wig have each strand of hair hand-knotted, which is the main reason the wig is so expensive.
Here’s what that buys: a more natural hairline and part. The lace front gives the wig a more fuzzy, natural hairline, and not the abrupt hairline found on wigs without a lace front. Even more exciting is the monofilament top. It does two things. First, it allows you to part your hair wherever you want. Gone is the forced part down the middle. Second is the natural looking scalp under those top hairs. So that part, wherever you put it, looks like there is scalp skin under it, and not fabric.
I spent a lot of money on these two upgrades, but the improved appearance is very exciting!
Focused Makeup Practice
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My morning routine includes practice with makeup. It was taking way too long each day, so I decided one of my crossdressing goals is spending my time focusing on the parts that will help me get ready to go out as quickly as possible. In other words, I am trying to decide what is the minimal makeup I need to look presentable. After spending a few weeks improving my mascara application skills, I decided to focus a lot of time on foundation and the covering of the beard. The trick is to apply enough to cover the dark hair without it looking caked on.
I use a liquid foundation from L’oreal called True Match. I was able to experiment with shades until I found one that blended well with my skin tone, W3 Nude Beige. Using a triangular sponge, I gradually layer the foundation. Once I have the beard covered, I spend time blending the surrounding area until there is a smooth transition. Finally, I finish with a dusting of translucent powder. I’m still practicing regularly, and I think I am doing well enough that I often wear the foundation even when dressed in male clothes.
How about Your Crossdressing Goals?
Ok, I’ve shared some of my progress toward my crossdressing goals with you. I hope that they have in some way inspired you. With that inspiration, take a look at where you are since the beginning of the year. Have you made any progress since then? Where do you wish you had done better? If you don’t mind sharing too, please leave your comments in the space below. Thanks, and I hope you are having a terrific year!
p.s., Here are some of my other popular Sami’s Week posts. Enjoy!
- Why Be Afraid of a Sandwich? Sami’s Week
- Why Crossdress? Sami’s Week
- Crossdressing Ripple Effects – Sami’s Week
What do you think of Sami’s progress? What about your own progress? Leave a comment.
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